Everyone’s held a grudge at some point in their life. But when it comes to astrology, there are definitely a few things each zodiac signs has a hard time forgiving, and may hold onto with an extra intensity. Depending on their personality traits, and what matters most to them, certain betrayals, mistakes, and wrongdoings might be tough for them to shake.
It’s OK to take time to get over something. But when it comes to a grudge, it’s better to work on letting it go and moving forward, as fast as possible. “Holding onto a grudge can be toxic to your body, mind, and psyche,” professional astrologer Rachel Lang tells Bustle. “Unresolved anger and resentment can lead to feelings of bitterness over time, and this can affect relationships and even your health.”
That’s why forgiveness is key, as it’s a way of releasing toxicity from the brain. “Forgiveness can set you free to move forward with your life, opening you to new relationships and experiences that may have been inaccessible, as old grudges can keep you stuck in the past,” Lang says. “It is important to recognize if you are holding a grudge so you can begin the forgiveness process, which often involves making peace with the situation within yourself.”
That may mean reaching out to friends, talking with a therapist, and also being aware of what sticks in your mind and bugs you the most. Here is the one thing each sign has trouble forgiving others for, according to an expert.
1Aries (March 21 – April 19): Acts Of Betrayal
The one thing they might get hung up on, though, is betrayal. “They might have a difficult time forgiving someone for throwing them under the bus, or rather, betrayal for personal gain, especially in professional or social circumstances,” she says. “If someone takes credit for something they did, for example. They can be competitive, and this type of unfair behavior can upset them to the core.”
2Taurus (April 20 – May 20): Stealing
While they’re incredibly passionate and generous, Taurus values their hard-earned resources and carefully chosen things, which is why they’re so affected by stealing. “They might give a big gift, for example, but if they feel taken advantage of, their trust can be shaken.”
3Gemini (May 21 – June 20): Misunderstandings
Gemini wants to be heard, understood and acknowledged, and many “will talk through these misunderstandings in an attempt to gain clarity,” Lang says. “However, they may create stories in their own minds about what happened without checking it out with the other person. This can lead them to jump to conclusions.” And it can be difficult for them to forgive.
4Cancer (June 21 – July 22): Cheating
“These actions hurt worse for a Cancer than lying,” she says. “Deception over a long period of time can lead Cancer to question everything about the relationship. When they lose trust, some Cancers put up their shells and protect their sensitive hearts.”
5Leo (July 23 – August 22): Rejection
6Virgo (August 23 – September 22): Harsh Criticism
“Constructive, healthy feedback is a different thing … and they often appreciate the collaborative process of working with others to perfect a skill, project, or themselves.”
7Libra (September 23 – October 22): Injustice
8Scorpio (October 23 – November 21): Betrayals
“They can have trust issues and can be sensitive (though they usually do not show it),” Lang says. “When they let someone in, they take that very seriously. If someone betrays their trust, they can put up their wall of protection. It may take a long time for them to build trust again.”
9Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21): Lying
10Capricorn (December 22 – January 19): Disrespect
11Aquarius (January 20 – February 18): Maliciousness
12Pisces (February 19 – March 20): Gaslighting
That said, if you gaslight them, they may not be able to forget it. “Because they see the best in others, in situations of gaslighting, they may question their intuition and sense of knowing,” Lang says. “This can make them feel less powerful in relationships, and it can be a difficult pattern for them to heal.”
While these signs don’t have to learn how to be OK with things like gaslighting, lying, or betrayal, they can learn how to let go out a grudge — for their own sake.